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The Ease of Being

Published on 17/03/09
by Ro

So, I was in front of my machine doing my thing as I always am when I get a call from a new friend who I’ve been hangin’ out with recently. We small talk, me expounding on something not so important and my counter part sharing the recent details of what is going down in her life. Eventually, she invites me to come hang with her if I’m too to busy with work, which, of course I oblige because she’s pleasant to be around. I hop on a train and we link up, off to further adventures around the city. What is only meant to be a spending a few moments together turns into a full day’s event. As we catch various modes of public transpo, we talk a lil bit deeper about our particular views on a wide range of topics. She has been through quite a bit, so it isn’t long before I’m completely engrossed in just listening and throwing in a comment here and there while the stories spill out. We spend most of the day in this mode. Just, you know sharing. This is a significant thing to me because I don’t often share the details of my life. No, ha, not because I want to be mysterious, but rather I just think most people don’t care. But in this particular instance, it seemed the thing to do, and I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable about sharing so much of her experiences. And honestly, it felt nice to just talk to someone about many things that I just keep to myself. So, the day went much like this. No, nothing spectacular. Just really cool, in an every day kind of way.

I know what your thinking. “Did you [insert romantic inquiry here]“? Ha, no. Not that I didn’t cross my mind. However, at least for me, you have these opportunities to really connect with people in a deep and yet effortless kind of way. Sure, I could have steered it into a more non platonic kind of thing. I think sometimes though doing this cheapens the experience of what is happening. Communication between people is such a treacherous thing sometimes. It’s amazing how a few syllables can bring down years of pain staking work that goes into building a positive connection. Quite often, it is my belief we take for granted the times when two beings put aside gender, ethnic, financial, etc differences and just speak honestly. I know quite a few have their own preconceived notions about me, ha, some which are justified (I’m the Juggernaught, BITCH) and I have some of my own that I tend to cling to. Because of this, we have so few moments where we can just Be, as Common so eloquently put it in the song of the same name. I, for one, relish these moments. I live for these moments. Where my faults are understood because they balance with my pros. Where I see and appreciate the strength of another’s moment of vulnerability. Where two folks are at ease, if even for just a few moments, with just being.

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